You might notice that I’ve spent a good bit of time discussing marriage recently. There’s a reason for that.
When I was younger I was not looking for a wife. I wanted to have fun, and then have more fun! I was going to college, but I was not taking life very seriously. I worked a little here and there, and dated when it suited me. I can’t honestly say I was looking for a spouse.
My wife showed up in sudden fashion and became such a good friend so fast that I knew there had to be more to her. I started inviting her on group outings, and we spent lots of time in friendly ways. There were a few things I noticed right off the bad. They were her integrity, her intelligence, and her kind demeanor. Now, my wife might tell you that since having our daughter, her demeanor might have gotten a little frazzled, but the other two traits are very much in effect.
When people ask me what makes a good spouse, I tell them that intelligence is the number one attribute of a good boyfriend/girlfriend. You only want to spend your life with someone who will make quality decisions. If there are kids in the equation, you want to make sure your spouse will do a good job with your kids, whether you are around or not. God wants you to make this kind of decision. Lots of folks will tell you that love should dominate a relationship, but folks, love only gets you so far. Many years down the road you want someone who knows how to treat money properly, has a great work ethic, and knows how to debate without creating a scream-fest.
Life is a wonderful journey! You want someone that will not only join you, but someone who will know how to walk with you. My wife was an agnostic when we met, but she soon enough realized Jesus was a good idea. God is important, but obviously not required for a spouse. Agnostics, atheists, and other worshippers will usually see the truth in Christ. He is an easy story to believe.
Take a minute to analyze who you are with. If they cannot treat you well and make good decisions, then its possible that you are wasting precious time. I guarantee you that there is always a way to improve on your relationship, as long as you hold your suitors to a high benchmark. The friends in my life who have chosen intelligent and morally upright people have fared much better than those who get carried away with love and lust. As I’ve said many times, its easy to love someone. Its harder to stay in love when the sky is caving in.
The sky always caves in.
When I was younger I was not looking for a wife. I wanted to have fun, and then have more fun! I was going to college, but I was not taking life very seriously. I worked a little here and there, and dated when it suited me. I can’t honestly say I was looking for a spouse.
My wife showed up in sudden fashion and became such a good friend so fast that I knew there had to be more to her. I started inviting her on group outings, and we spent lots of time in friendly ways. There were a few things I noticed right off the bad. They were her integrity, her intelligence, and her kind demeanor. Now, my wife might tell you that since having our daughter, her demeanor might have gotten a little frazzled, but the other two traits are very much in effect.
When people ask me what makes a good spouse, I tell them that intelligence is the number one attribute of a good boyfriend/girlfriend. You only want to spend your life with someone who will make quality decisions. If there are kids in the equation, you want to make sure your spouse will do a good job with your kids, whether you are around or not. God wants you to make this kind of decision. Lots of folks will tell you that love should dominate a relationship, but folks, love only gets you so far. Many years down the road you want someone who knows how to treat money properly, has a great work ethic, and knows how to debate without creating a scream-fest.
Life is a wonderful journey! You want someone that will not only join you, but someone who will know how to walk with you. My wife was an agnostic when we met, but she soon enough realized Jesus was a good idea. God is important, but obviously not required for a spouse. Agnostics, atheists, and other worshippers will usually see the truth in Christ. He is an easy story to believe.
Take a minute to analyze who you are with. If they cannot treat you well and make good decisions, then its possible that you are wasting precious time. I guarantee you that there is always a way to improve on your relationship, as long as you hold your suitors to a high benchmark. The friends in my life who have chosen intelligent and morally upright people have fared much better than those who get carried away with love and lust. As I’ve said many times, its easy to love someone. Its harder to stay in love when the sky is caving in.
The sky always caves in.