Seems like some folks were born for it and others not so much, huh? I'm not sure if I was ever the "perfect" candidate for marriage, but when it did come I sure did not hesitate. I was 27, Kelly was 28. We did not have a pile of money, but we were employed. We had the same goals, nothing outlandish. But what we had a lot of was the ability to compromise.
Fights never got blown out of proportion with us, even though I was bipolar. We could discuss and discuss and discuss, without anything getting too weird. I guess you could say I had never had a girlfriend who was like that. Kelly was good at communicating, and I guess I was not that bad. You could say that we made a good couple, and we still do, because our patience has grown over the years.
What do you do if you can't find a good peacekeeper? You start sowing the patience seeds in yourself, to the point where you never argue without the logic being reasonable and correct. Relationships fail because people get tired of the fighting. Obviously adultery happens, but it seems to usually follow lots of fighting. Why is the world this way? I'm not sure, but I know that life gets easier once you trust your spouse or girlfriend, and you don't have to stress out about the little things.
I'll admit that I have never read lots of books on relationships, but what I do know is that when my wife comes home from work, I greet her with a big hug and an invitation for something to drink. I guess that makes me a modern, work-from-home husband, right? :)
Fights never got blown out of proportion with us, even though I was bipolar. We could discuss and discuss and discuss, without anything getting too weird. I guess you could say I had never had a girlfriend who was like that. Kelly was good at communicating, and I guess I was not that bad. You could say that we made a good couple, and we still do, because our patience has grown over the years.
What do you do if you can't find a good peacekeeper? You start sowing the patience seeds in yourself, to the point where you never argue without the logic being reasonable and correct. Relationships fail because people get tired of the fighting. Obviously adultery happens, but it seems to usually follow lots of fighting. Why is the world this way? I'm not sure, but I know that life gets easier once you trust your spouse or girlfriend, and you don't have to stress out about the little things.
I'll admit that I have never read lots of books on relationships, but what I do know is that when my wife comes home from work, I greet her with a big hug and an invitation for something to drink. I guess that makes me a modern, work-from-home husband, right? :)